Child to Parent Violence Services

Child to Parent Violence (CPV) is a pattern of physical, psychological and emotional behaviour seen in children and adolescents who cannot regulate their feelings in other ways and/or have a great need to gain control over their parent/s or carers. In families who experience CPV, violence as well as destructive behaviour by the child are more often than not the most pressing concern; it has the potential to destroy families.

CPV services we offer

Email Jo Mitchell in the North (jo@pac-uk.org) Sue Dromey in the South (sued@pac-uk.org) for more information on CPV-NVR Services.

CPV is a serious issue for many families, which is often misunderstood or overlooked. It can be a difficult and seemingly impossible task for parents and carers to acknowledge that this is happening in their family.

As an adoptive parent, seeking help for a child who is displaying such behaviours can be a very shaming experience which can, in turn, prevent parents from accessing the support they need.

PAC-UK offers a broad range of specialist CPV services for parents, carers and professionals. These services are approved for funding by the Adoption Support Fund.

In addition to the services listed below, PAC-UK’s Child & Family Service has extensive experience in all aspects of supporting families with adopted or otherwise permanently placed children.

One Day CPV-NVR Awareness Raising Workshops

Child to Parent Violence is now recognised as a real risk factor in adoptive and other permanent placements. Non-violent resistance (NVR) is an approach that helps parents learn how to deal with these violent behaviours in their children. This workshop will set out the principles of NVR. It is highly recommended for all adoptive parents, special guardians and foster carers whose children are violent or destructive on a regular basis.

Participants will become familiarised with the principles of NVR and learn how to build ‘new authority’ in the family and re-connections with their child.

Workshops open for online booking are listed on our Workshops for Adoptive Parents & Carers page.

CPV-NVR Parent Groups

Our CPV-NVR Parent Groups are designed to teach the NVR principles, as well as provide a space for sharing, and building connections/mutual support between parents. Skills that are taught help parents resist out-of-control and violent behaviours whilst developing a collaborative solution-focused approach to problems (for example: de-escalating conflicts, increasing parental presence, announcing their decision to make a stand, ‘sit-ins’ and developing support networks). Parents also learn to counter giving-in to their child’s demands or responding in a reactive way which can lead to even more violence.

Our CPV-NVR Parent Groups consist of 8-12 weekly 2-3 hour sessions which include short presentations, sharing, discussion and optional role plays. Structured homework tasks help reinforce the ideas from the sessions and help parents make an active connection to situations with their children at home.

The groups are facilitated by PAC-UK Child and Family Therapists who are experienced in working with adoptive families and hold a variety of skills including training in NVR. Parent Graduates co-facilitate the groups. Parent Graduates are adoptive parents or special guardians that have trained in NVR as well as in other relevant knowledge and skills (including therapeutic parenting techniques). Group participants tell us that the role of the Parent Graduate in the group is crucial as this ensures that the parent’s voice and experience helps to shape and design the service delivery.

We can also offer support to children, parents and education providers through PAC UK’s Education Service... and support to parents via our Peer Services.

Support between the group sessions is an integral part of the service: diarised telephone/Skype sessions are offered to all parents who enrol in a group.

At the end of the group sessions, further support may be offered by means of a follow-up support group, which continues to be facilitated by a therapist and/or Parent Graduate.

In addition to this, we can also offer support to children, parents and education providers through PAC UK’s Education Service, and support to parents via our Peer Services.

CPV-NVR Parent Groups open for online booking can be found below and are also listed on our Workshops for Adoptive Parents & Carers page.

Manchester CPV-NVR Parent Group: 10 week group sessions for adoptive parents of children presenting challenging, destructive and violent behaviour

Price: £1800.00

Date: January 3, 2019

The 10 week group sessions for adoptive parents will take place from 10.30am to 12.30pm on Thursday mornings at Luther King House, Brighton Grove, Manchester, M14 5JP on the following dates:

January 3, 10, 17, 24, 31
February 7, 14, 28
March 7, 14

In addition to the above 10 weekly group sessions, each participant can attend 2 follow-up Support Groups (28 March & 2 May), a Shame workshop (4 April) and participant’s families can attend a Related by Adoption workshop (21 March).

To get the most out of the group, participants need to attend in full. For two parent families it is most beneficial to attend together where possible.

Availability: Last few spaces only.

London CPV-NVR Parent Group: 10 week group sessions for Special Guardians of children presenting challenging, destructive and violent behaviour

Price: £2571.00

Date: January 23, 2019

The 10 week group sessions for Special Guardians will take place from 10.15am to 1.15pm on Wednesday mornings at Voluntary Action Islington, 200a Pentonville Road, London, N1 9JP on the following dates:

January 23, 30
February 6, 20, 27
March 6, 13, 20, 27
April 3

The group includes individual diarised telephone sessions with participants. A monthly ‘Follow-up Support Group’ will be available for 6 months after the group. This totals 46 hours of contact time per person.

To get the most out of the group, participants need to attend in full. For two parent families it is most beneficial to attend together where possible.

Availability: Spaces remaining.

Individualised/Direct Support

This is intended for parents who need more intensive, one-to-one support (or who are unable to attend a CPV-NVR Parent Group). Our CPV services can be tailored to deliver bespoke, direct and individualised support in either a clinical setting or in their family home. The service is delivered by a qualified therapist or an accredited NVR practitioner.

The direct service will be based on the same principles as the group based model NVR, communication, self-care, educational support and intensive group support.

Training for professionals across health, social care, education and support services

Visit our Workshops for Professionals page for more information on relevant training and workshops!

Direct training to all staff in social care, health, education and support services is available through PAC-UK.

Our CPV service has contributed to an evaluation study undertaken by Julie Selwyn. Outcomes and evaluations of the CPV-NVR services accessed by parents/families were gathered and analysed to evidence the impact of such interventions for parents and families.

For information on relevant training and workshops please visit our Workshops for Professionals page.

For professionals wishing to seek additional support on behalf of a family or to make a referral, please contact us via this web form or call the PAC-UK Advice Line on 020 7284 5879 (London) or  0113 230 2100 (Leeds).

Behaviour considered to be violent if others in the family feel threatened, intimidated or controlled by it and if they believe that they must adjust their own behaviour to accommodate threats or anticipation of violence.Paterson et al. (2002) Adolescent violence towards parents: Maintaining family connections when the going gets tough

Parent feedback

There has been no advice as valuable as the ideas and delivery of this course, even if some of it feels alien – hang on in there.CPV-NVR Parent Group participant

Exceptionally good, knowledgeable and experienced course facilitators. Every adoptive family needs these people. Top marks.CPV-NVR Parent Group participant

Further information and enquiries

For more information about our CPV-NVR services please contact Jo Mitchell, Regional Manager (North) via email jo@pac-uk.org or phone 0113 264 6837 or Sue Dromey, Child & Family Service Practice Manager via email sued@pac-uk.org or phone 020 7284 0555.