Child to Parent Violence Services

Child to Parent Violence (CPV) is a pattern of physical, psychological and emotional behaviour used by children and adolescents to gain control or power over their parent/s or carers. In families who experience CPV, it is the children or young people who hold the power within the relationship.

CPV services we offer

Email Jo Mitchell at jo@pac-uk.org for more information on CPV Services!

CPV is a serious issue for many families, which is often misunderstood or overlooked. It can be a difficult and seemingly impossible task for parents and carers to acknowledge that this is happening in their family.

As an adoptive parent seeking help for a child who is displaying such behaviours can be a very shaming experience which can, in turn, prevent parents from accessing the support they need.

PAC-UK offers a broad range of specialist CPV services for parents, carers and professionals. These services are approved for funding by the Adoption Support Fund.

In addition to the CPV services listed below, PAC-UK’s Child & Family Service has extensive experience in all aspects of supporting families with adopted or otherwise permanently placed children.

One Day CPV Awareness Raising Workshops

Child to Parent Violence is now recognised as a real risk factor in adoptive and other permanent placements. Non-violent resistance (NVR) is an approach that helps parents learn how to deal with these violent behaviours in children. This workshop will set out the principles of NVR; it is highly recommended for all parents of permanence but particularly for those whose children are violent.

Participants will become familiarised with the principles of NVR and learn how to build ‘new authority’ in the family and re-connections between parent and child.

Workshops currently open for online booking are listed below and are also on our Workshops for Adoptive Parents & Carers page.

Child to Parent Violence (CPV) - Non Violent Resistance (NVR) Parenting Approach - Leeds

Price: £169.20

Date: October 23, 2018

Child to Parent Violence is now recognized as a real risk factor in adoptive families and other permanent placements. NVR is a parenting approached based on the political position of great figures who took it upon themselves to bring about much needed change, without getting caught up in the conflict nor allowing themselves to be dis-empowered.

Many families are struggling with children and young people coming from a background of complex trauma who present with challenging, destructive and violent behaviours.

This day will help you gain an understanding on the principles of NVR in order to implement the first steps on this different parenting journey.

Availability: Spaces remaining.

Child to Parent Violence (CPV) - Non Violent Resistance (NVR) Parenting Approach - London

Price: £199.80

Date: October 31, 2018

Child to Parent Violence is now recognized as a real risk factor in adoptive families and other permanent placements. NVR is a parenting approached based on the political position of great figures who took it upon themselves to bring about much needed change, without getting caught up in the conflict nor allowing themselves to be dis-empowered.

Many families are struggling with children and young people coming from a background of complex trauma who present with challenging, destructive and violent behaviours.

This day will help you gain an understanding on the principles of NVR in order to implement the first steps on this different parenting journey.

Availability: Last few spaces only.

CPV Parent Groups

Our CPV Parent Groups are designed to teach, provide a space for sharing, and build connections and mutual support between parents. Skills that are taught help parents resist out-of-control and violent behaviours whilst developing a collaborative solution-focused approach to problems (for example: de-escalating conflicts, increasing parental presence, announcing their decision to make a stand, ‘sit-ins’ and developing support networks). Parents also learn to counter giving-in to their child’s demands or responding in a reactive way which can lead to even more violence.

Our CPV Parent Groups are underpinned with NVR and consists of 8-12 weekly 3-hour sessions which include short presentations, sharing, discussion and optional role plays. Structured homework tasks help reinforce the ideas from the sessions and help parents make an active connection to situations with their children at home.

The groups are facilitated by PAC-UK Child and Family Therapists who are experienced in working with adoptive families and hold a variety of skills including training in NVR. Parent Graduates co-facilitate the groups. They themselves are all adoptive parents and are trained in NVR as well as in other relevant skills including therapeutic parenting techniques. Adopters tell us that the role of the Parent Graduate in the Group based CPV Parent Group is crucial as this ensures that the adopter’s voice and experience helps to shape and design the service delivery.

We can also offer support to children, parents and education providers through PAC UK’s Education Service... and support to parents via our Peer Services!

Support between the group sessions is an integral part of the service: weekly telephone/Skype is offered to all parents who enrol in a group.

At the end of the taught group sessions, further support is offered by means of a local monthly CPV group, which continues to be facilitated by a therapist and/or Parent Graduate.

In addition to this, we can also offer support to children, parents and education providers through PAC UK’s Education Service... and support to parents via our Peer Services.

PAC-UK can deliver CPV Parent Groups nationally. If you are an adoptive parent, permanent carer or social worker and this is something that would be of interest to you, please email Jo Mitchell at jo@pac-uk.org to arrange an informal discussion.

CPV Parent Groups currently open for online booking are listed below and are also on our Workshops for Adoptive Parents & Carers page.

London (Merton) CPV Parent Group: Non-Violent Resistance – 8 week group sessions for adoptive parents and Special Guardians of children presenting challenging, destructive and violent behaviour

Price: £1860.00

Date: October 10, 2018

The 8 week group sessions will take place from 10.15am to 1.15pm on Wednesday mornings at Morden Baptist Church, Crown Lane, Morden, SM4 5BL on the following dates:

October 10, 17, 31
November 7, 14, 21, 28
December 5

The venue is a very short, 2 minute walk from Morden Underground Station (Northern Line).

The group includes individual diarised telephone sessions with participants. A monthly ‘Follow-up Support Group’ will be available for 6 months after the group. This totals 40 hours of contact time per person.

To get the most out of the group, participants need to attend in full. For two parent families it is most beneficial to attend together where possible.

Availability: Spaces remaining.

London (Kings Cross) CPV Parent Group: Non-Violent Resistance – 8 week group sessions for adoptive parents and Special Guardians of children presenting challenging, destructive and violent behaviour

Price: £1716.00

Date: October 11, 2018

The 8 week group sessions will take place from 10.15am to 1.15pm on Thursday mornings at Voluntary Action Islington 200a Pentonville Road, London, N1 9JP on the following dates:

October 11, 18*
November 1, 8, 15, 22, 29
December 6

*The session on October 18 will take place at The Lift, 45 White Lion Street, London, N1 9PV. All other sessions will take place at Voluntary Action Islington.

The group includes individual diarised telephone sessions with participants. A monthly ‘Follow-up Support Group’ will be available for 6 months after the group. This totals 40 hours of contact time per person.

To get the most out of the group, participants need to attend in full. For two parent families it is most beneficial to attend together where possible.

Availability: Last few spaces only.

Individualised/Direct CPV Support

This is intended for parents who need more intensive, one-to-one support (or who are unable to attend a CPV Parent Group). Our CPV services can be tailored to deliver bespoke, direct and individualised support in either a clinical setting or in their family home.

The direct service will be based on the same principles as the group based model NVR, communication, self-care, educational support and intensive group support.

For all enquiries relating to individualised/direct CPV support please email Jo Mitchell at jo@pac-uk.org

Training for professionals across health, social care, education and support services

Visit our Workshops for Professionals page for more information on relevant training and workshops!

Direct training to all staff in social care, health, education and support services is available through PAC-UK. In addition to direct training, we are developing an online “knowledge hub” for professionals.

Our CPV services will also aim to contribute to well informed research. Outcome and evaluations of the CPV services accessed by parents/families will be gathered and analysed to evidence the impact of such interventions for parents and families.

For information on relevant training and workshops please visit our Workshops for Professionals page.

For professionals wishing to seek additional support on behalf of a family or to make a referral, please contact us via this web form or call the PAC-UK Advice Line on 020 7284 5879 (London) or  0113 230 2100 (Leeds).

Behaviour considered to be violent if others in the family feel threatened, intimidated or controlled by it and if they believe that they must adjust their own behaviour to accommodate threats or anticipation of violence.Paterson et al. (2002) Adolescent violence towards parents: Maintaining family connections when the going gets tough

Parent feedback

There has been no advice as valuable as the ideas and delivery of this course, even if some of it feels alien – hang on in there.CPV Parent Group participant

Exceptionally good, knowledgeable and experienced course facilitators. Every adoptive family needs these people. Top marks.CPV Parent Group participant

Further information and enquiries

For more information about our CPV services please contact Jo Mitchell, Head of Child and Family Service (Leeds) via email jo@pac-uk.org or phone 0113 264 6837.